The Power Of The Parent

As a parent, I have learned to be very careful with what I say to my children.  I truly THINK before I speak to them.  We are all children, for that is how we all got here.  Some of us are more sensitive than others.  Even as a grown up, when my mother says something that hurts me, it hurts me in a much deeper way than if someone else said the same exact thing.  The parent has so much power over their children. 

Please parents pay attention to your words, your actions, and your re-actions.  What you say and do, will affect your children no matter what .  Think and be conscious of what you say and do.

Someone at school could say something to your child and they come home very upset.  You talk with them and try to do whatever you can to help them through this pain.

There are some parents who are not like that.  Some parents are the ones saying those horrible things to their own children.

There are so many cases and forms of abuse going on that the courts simply cannot handle it.  There are children being physically abused everyday of their innocent lives.  There are children who live with alcoholic parents, drug addict parents all over the world being abused in some form right this very second.

Then there is the verbally abusive parent.  Sometimes these are the worst ones of all.  The verbally abusive parent says whatever they want to  children and get away with it because there are no visible wounds.  No cuts, nor bruises, for the world to see, just emotional wounds that no one can see.

These parents are often great actors, they present themselves to the outside world as great caring parents.  They have teachers, therapists, friends all believing their story of how bad their child is, when it is really them who is badly behaved.   The second the door closes, they attack and as we all know, no one knows what goes on behind closed doors.   It is usually one child that they pick on more than another, perhaps that kid reminds them of one of their parents or someone who they hate.  Either way, they scream, they yell, and they name call for hours at a time.  They will keep their kid from doing their homework and studying with constant fighting and yelling and then call them stupid and a failure.

There are many cases where a straight A student has gone to failing due to the never ending pressure, frustration, and depression that comes from this abuse.  Kids can turn to drugs, alcohol, become anorexic, or begin having sex at an early age just to find some comfort and or the feeling of love that we all need so badly, or simply to feel like they have control over something in their life.

Parents, please pay attention to what you are doing.

Don’t abuse your children, who you couldn’t wait to have.

Children are precious gifts from God, who need our love, guidance, and support.

What we say to them can make or break them.

Please do not abuse your gift of parenthood.

All of you good parents,

Guess what?  It is all of our responsibility to pay attention to what is happening in the world around us.  If you see a child being abused in any way, please report it.  Tell someone.  Help a child to have the life that they deserve to have.

It does not make you a bad person to get involved.  Do not sit there saying to yourself that this is not your problem, it's not your kid, I have no right to get involved.  GET INVOLVED and help another human being.  We are all God’s children, we are all connected, we all need to pay attention to help make this world a better place, because WE ALL MATTER.  EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US.

With Sincere Gratitude